Fear to Change???

Are you the one? We always feel comfortable with where we are and what we have. But, are you satisfied with your current situation? Many people surrounding me reject to change by giving me lots of excuses, "No, my partner is here, and I can't change the job in other location.", "Yea, this idea is good, but not for this moment.", "I'm hopeful it will become better." ...

Are those excuses valid? One week, one month, years pass... and they are still stand at the same place. Complaining the environment, rules & regulation, employers, economy, these and that. Afraid to go out of your comfort zone and you will never be changed/ improved. I born in Asia and still living here, adults routine are going to work early in the morning, stuck in traffic jam and fret when they knock off, having dinner either outside or homemade dinner, watching movies and sleep. Get up early in the morning, start this routine until weekend/ off day, and window shopping, shopping, theater, having lunch/ dinner in restaurant, go back watch movies and sleep. Majority of people will live this way especially Asian (which those I knew). They will never improve themselves by looking at the purpose in their live, rat race is the only words can describe them.

There is nothing wrong to live in rat race. Many people telling me they are happy and satisfied with their current life, earn just enough money and do a little saving, paid for car loan, house loan, swipe the credit card emotionally, and they are really satisfied. I am just wonder, would they be regret when they are 60-70 years old. To be honest, majority of those 'satisfied' with their life might just follow whatever 'the crowd' said. Pay attention, they are struggling with their current income, others than pay back those debt and little saving, they can't do the extra things. Why don't they change? Change a job? Change the environment? Change the mindset? Change to be business owner or investor?

Invest time in studying yet getting the knowledge of  world or just the country economies rather than those drama, isn't worth? Read some self-help books or be active after working hours isn't fun then sitting on couch and watching movie? Go for outdoor activities (mountain climbing, cycling, jogging, BBQ...) or indoor (sauna, tennis, squash, bowling...) rather than shopping shopping shopping, isn't fun? To me, sometimes I'm wondering I'm like a alien or my friends and family are normal, our life style totally different. And thank god, at least my love partner same like me ;) 

 Don't be afraid to change!!! I changed a lots  so far, and is good but still not perfect. I was living in country that are really suck. No security, inflation, bias government, lousy transportation services, high percentage of low literacy that lead to no culture environment (no defense, I admit is not all, but majority) and so on. Once I graduate, I was struggling in this situation. As a Degree Holder, your paid will be 1,600-2,000, and if you have no transport, about 170 for public transportation, rent a room for 500-800, it just normal food will cause you 600, how about living expenses, girls for beauty, guys for gaming?? You might have a question, "Is't really so bad? If so, how the rest able to survive?" Yes, with lots of debt of credit card, and loan. 

I'm living in Singapore, and you can survive with the income as the inflation rate is low and the expenses are reasonable. It is one of the Changes I made, and I'm really appreciate the encouragement from my love partner. I have no one in Singapore and I came here alone with few interview appointments. Living in capsule and backpacker to reduce the cost, thank to the convenient transportation here. I found a job, and found a room through the research I did. 

My first job here was my interested job, but I quit after 3 weeks since I realized I was abused by the employer. I was fed up of the behaviour and promises made by the employer, quit without having any back up. I went back to my country and my only one keep pushing me to find another new job. And after about a month, I found it. The salary I got was 300 more than the previous job. I worked for about 4 months and again I quit. You must think I'm a vase and can't tolerate the 'real society'. I am not! When I interview for this job, the owner told me, second floor got about 10 plus colleague, and explain my job scope. I was really happy for the new environment. 

The very first day, I was wearing very formal and enter to the office, waiting for my colleague. And I was be told by the person who I'm going to replace, "I am the only one in this room, and you are going to replace me, other than that we have an owner and owner's wife." I was really shock, but still telling myself to calm down and try to stay positive. When I was alone in office, I was everything, I need to answer phone call, handle suppliers, customers, delivery team, logistic, account (company is having the debt since 2011, and I have to always lie to people my owner oversea, or this and that), and the other branch which managed by the owner's parents (75-85 years old). The phone start ringing early morning and I'm the one will be get scolded due to the debt company owe. Lack of good communication from both owners also cause lots of unnecessary problem that I need to overtime with no single penny. I was telling my self I need to stay for at least a year, and see what is going on. Many suppliers talked to me the 'history' of this company, people won't work for long time due to the stingy owner. I want to prove them they are wrong, becoz I am strong enough. 

Day by day, I was nervous compared with yesterday. Sometimes even cry in office, having conflict with my love one, coz he is the only one I can talk, complaint. I quit finally after about 4 months. Other than my career, my land lady also has psychic problem as I described in Meaning of Live. So, I made a decision to change. And I did. Currently I am having a good job with better pay, and my salary was 500 more than the previous job. And right now am living in condo with high educated people and expatriate, great facilities that I can spend my leisure time. Why I live better comparing with 8 months ago? I CHANGED, and I deserved. How about you?

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